Article -63 Week 21 ANGER MANAGEMENT:

ANGER MANAGEMENT:

Remember the famous movie of this name. There are times when emotions take the better part of our reasons. We pay less heed to the problems on the other side, especially so when we feel wronged blatantly. Tempers fly high. Irrevocably damaging words spill out. Menacing demeanours, gestures and other animalistic offensive mechanisms vitiate the problem further, some times to the points of no return. We are human and are prone to be swept up by this torrent of  evolutionary blinding of our senses.

The malady can only be handled with the help of a magic wand. This can be anything that you carry yourself all the time. Like your favourite pen. The rule is to hold the pen in your clasp and not to speak till the pen is in your hand. Just listen & listen. Until the other person who barges on to you with a mauled emotion completes his tirade, you need to hold on to the pen and just sit up to listen and try to soak in his view points. Focus onto what he babbles and make sense out of this. Once he keeps quiet - that could mean from a burst of 10 minutes to a melancholic parroting up to 30 minutes - you hand over the pen to him and tell him the rules of the Magic Wand. And then you take off. Once you are finished with, take back the pen and follow the rule.

You will be surprised at the pleasant and amicable outcome. In case you are the first to burst at your seams, you need to go there to the other person and hand over your pen. Explain him the rules. And start. This prevents a violent collision of reasons with emotions and sets the platform for an effective communication.

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Brgds

Capt Rath